Why Telling Kids to Use Their Words Doesn't Always Work [a Listener Q&A]

Your five-year-old is hitting other children when they're angry, frustrated or feel something is unfair. You've talked about using words, encouraged them to burn off energy and tried everything you can think of. So what actually helps?

Justin and Kylie Coulson explain why young children lash out, how to practise emotional regulation at home and what to do when your child comes home after a difficult day at school. Learn how to set boundaries without shame, build better responses and help your child manage big feelings as their brain develops.

KEY POINTS

Why five-year-olds struggle to control big emotions

How to practise calming strategies before frustration takes over

Why difficult conversations work better when everyone is calm

Helping children find their own solutions to conflict

Responding with compassion while still addressing hitting

How classroom culture and maturity can influence behaviour

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“When emotions are hot or high, there's not a lot that soaks in or sinks in.”

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