Unlearning The Good Girl You Were Raised To Be ft. Ursula Mariani | According To B x Bernini

<p>This episode of According To B is in partnership with Bernini - the sparkling spritzer born from real wine.</p><p><br></p><p>Who are you beyond praise? Beyond approval? Beyond productivity?</p><p><br></p><p>This conversation is for the woman who has always done what was expected - and is now asking deeper questions. </p><p><br></p><p>I sit down with Ursula Mariani and together, we explore what it means to outgrow versions of yourself that once kept you safe. From discipline and achievement to faith, conditioning, and authorship, Ursula shares how intellectual curiosity and emotional honesty can coexist - and how real freedom begins when you stop performing and start choosing.</p><p><br></p><p>Subscribe to The B Word here:<a href="https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su.."> https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su..</a>. </p><p><br></p><p>✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰</p><p><br></p><p>Ursula</p><p>Ursula Mariani is a lecturer, PHD candidate voice-over artist, and the host of the podcast: The Conversation Capital, where she explores the power of dialogue as currency-in relationships, leadership, and identity. Known for her clarity of thought and grounded presence, Ursula has become a trusted voice in conversations around womanhood, conditioning, faith, and personal authorship.</p><p>Her work sits at the intersection of intellect and introspection. Whether she’s in a lecture hall, behind a microphone, or leading nuanced discussions online, Ursula is committed to helping women question inherited expectations and consciously choose who they want to become.</p><p><br></p><p>✰ TIMESTAMPS✰</p><p><br></p><p>00:00 - Intro</p><p>03:23 - Meet Ursula</p><p>05:59 - Game: Toast or Ghost</p><p>19:51 - Ursula on being a good girl growing up</p><p>25:20 - The parts of herself Ursula left unexplored as a result of being a good girl</p><p>27:09 - Dilemma</p><p>34:11 - Ursula on growing into being independent and self-possessed</p><p>36:39 - Ursula on honouring parents without living according to their will</p><p>41:09 - The things Ursula has had to unlearn in the process of shedding </p><p>43:10 - The parts of herself that Ursula is only discovering now</p><p>45:09 - The part of herself that Ursula is excited to step into more </p><p>47:52 - What younger Ursula would think of her now</p><p>50:14 - Ursula receives her Breathe It In box</p><p>51:16 - Outro</p><p><br></p><p>✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰</p><p><br></p><p>Bokang</p><p>➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-<a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbmw0cTZ0bUI0SFZYb0cxUHYzY0FQSWhfOTczZ3xBQ3Jtc0ttX3lESURza05mMTZUMEduTmJGWWpzbnlrN1NnUElGZjhwZ1Z5OE5Pd2JmY1dVaDZFLXg3RENZRzNkREpjMkRpSWJuT3B0WDhoRzhoUy0tbWJsZHBUSFhSZDhQTVJCTm85b1k3UjJXQlAwMnNvTl93TQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fsheisbokang&v=xNxuB1lsccY">  / </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang">https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang</a><a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbmw0cTZ0bUI0SFZYb0cxUHYzY0FQSWhfOTczZ3xBQ3Jtc0ttX3lESURza05mMTZUMEduTmJGWWpzbnlrN1NnUElGZjhwZ1Z5OE5Pd2JmY1dVaDZFLXg3RENZRzNkREpjMkRpSWJuT3B0WDhoRzhoUy0tbWJsZHBUSFhSZDhQTVJCTm85b1k3UjJXQlAwMnNvTl93TQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fsheisbokang&v=xNxuB1lsccY">  </a> </p><p>➜ Tik Tok:@sheisbokang-<a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbURxS3BUNEhRNW83aHhFaU5reGtfSDJMMVhkQXxBQ3Jtc0tseVhQUEw5VVktelk5MDRzd25xUGY2WjZnQ0tEQVVOUGZMeml6dDNoWE1mNUZZYW1jd3RiSnhrRlgzZ2gxZTdvNllRTGdMRU1vUUx0enVJMmg2S2dCTVBvMF8xMTZNQVR5ZXZrelNjcUMwNGd6akRVVQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40sheisbokang&v=xNxuB1lsccY">  </a><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang"><u>https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang</u></a> </p><p> </p><p>The B Word</p><p>➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -<a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqazhnVjlvaUFtSmtQYjRoWm1MSnhHeGVVNS1SZ3xBQ3Jtc0tta3A5WGRUT0lodnpaTjh5OE1mdDdYOHRnenQzbnMxdFVKbDZQUVN2OWlocU00b1RBN09hakdFaV