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Why Asking AI for Relationship Advice Is Making You Worse at Love

Why Asking AI for Relationship Advice Is Making You Worse at Love5 days ago1 h 19 min

Right now, someone is telling a chatbot about the guy she went on a third date with — and it's giving her a pretty good answer. That should worry you.

Stefanos Sifandos has spent 25 years coaching people through relationships face-to-face, in the room. In this episode, he explains why AI can make you feel self-aware without ever making you change — and why that satiation is quietly keeping people stuck.

We get into:

Why AI relationship advice feels helpful but isn't the same as real growth

Why the avoidant partner always leaves first, and the anxious one won't stop chasing

How to tell if you're doing "the work" or just talking yourself into feeling better

What actually separates self-awareness from real change

Whether sunk cost is ever a good reason to stay in a relationship

What makes a marriage last when love alone isn't enough

If you're in a relationship, thinking about leaving one, or trying to figure out why you keep repeating the same patterns — this conversation is for you.

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