Listener Questions: Real Life, Real Regulation: Heather and Lori

In this first-ever listener question episode of Chitty Chats with Stacy, we’re diving into something so many of us quietly carry:

👉 How do you start taking care of yourself when everyone else is used to you taking care of them?

Heather asks a powerful question about navigating self-care as a midlife mom, partner, and eldest daughter—and what it means to shift long-standing patterns of overgiving.

We also explore:

Why your nervous system feels “stretched” (the rubber band effect)  How self-care is actually modeling, not selfishness  What it looks like to reclaim time without guilt The power of predictability and communication when setting boundaries  How to begin saying “no” when you’ve never been shown how PLUS:

A second listener question on how to stay grounded when your kids’ emotions feel like a rollercoaster—and what co-regulation actually looks like in real life.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to recognize when you’re over-functioning  Why boundaries feel uncomfortable (and why that’s normal)  Practical ways to “dose” regulation into your daily life  How to stay steady when others are not Key Takeaway:

Taking care of yourself doesn’t take away from others—it allows you to show up safer, steadier, and more present.

Have a question you want answered on the podcast?

📩 Email me: stacy@gobeyou.org