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Finding Pride in Barbados: Patrick's Journey Through Sexuality, Gender, and Dementia
Finding Pride in Barbados: Patrick's Journey Through Sexuality, Gender, and Dementia
When Patrick Kitana Ettenes bluntly told his father "I suck dick, daddy" at 15 years old, it marked just one turning point in a life brimming with extraordinary challenges and triumphs. Born in Barbados in 1983 to a Dutch father and Trinidadian mother, Patrick's childhood was a paradox of privilege and pain—his father's high-profile security work with prime ministers and diplomats couldn't shield him from relentless bullying due to his feminine expression. Patrick's shocking classroom experi...