Dementia Careblazers

← Dementia Careblazers13 Aug · 11 min

Stop Trying to Make Someone With Dementia Happy All the Time

Stop Trying to Make Someone With Dementia Happy All the Time13 Aug11 min

If you have taken the car keys, stepped in on the checkbook, or said no to something your loved one with dementia badly wanted, you already know what comes next. They are hurt. They are angry. And they are angry at you.

I want you to hear this first. Their unhappiness is not a report card on your caregiving.

This is one of the hardest parts of dementia caregiving, because it does not just feel hard. It feels like proof you are getting it wrong. And that is exactly what it is not.

In this episode I explain why trying to keep your loved one happy all the time puts their safety at risk, what it costs you on the days you have nothing left to give, and the one response almost every Careblazer skips, because we are so busy looking for the dementia response when what we really need is the human response.

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⏱ CHAPTERS

0:00 - Why them being upset with you does not mean you failed

1:27 - Reason one: the things you take away to keep them safe

3:36 - Reason two: what saying yes every time costs you

5:23 - Reason three: the human response we skip