Why Fairness Is a Trap in Divorce | Katherine Miller on The Emotionally Savvy Divorce

What if the thing you're fighting for in your divorce is actually keeping you stuck?

In this episode of the Emotionally Savvy Divorce series, Katherine Miller, divorce attorney, mediator, and author, unpacks why "fair" might be the most dangerous word in a divorce negotiation.

Katherine explains why two reasonable people can go through the same divorce and both walk away feeling wronged, and why chasing fairness often costs more in legal fees, time, and happiness than it's worth. Drawing on a real client story involving betrayal and a long, hard-won path to rebuilding, she shows what happens when someone finally lets go of being right in favor of moving forward.

Tune in for a mindset shift that could change how you approach every hard conversation left in your divorce.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why fairness is a personal experience, not an objective factThe difference between fighting to be right and fighting to be happyWhy the legal process can't give you emotional closureThree questions to ask yourself before your next difficult conversation

Highlights:

(00:00) Introducing the Emotionally Savvy Divorce series

(01:35) Part one: The problem

(03:05) Why fairness is personal, not objective

(03:58) Part two: The trap

(04:35) Would you rather be right or be happy?