women taking up space, productivity & achievement as a fawn response & anxious attachment | ep 56

<p>We start with the way so many women are hypervigilant about occupying space and what it feels like to move through the world constantly managing how much room you take up. That opens into a conversation about feeling safe around men, and Meg reflects on growing up in a house with slamming doors and how that shapes your nervous system long term.</p><p><br /></p><p>Erica shares a big realisation from therapy: her lifelong high achieving is actually a chronic fawn response, not just ambition. We get into what that means and how survival patterns can disguise themselves as strengths.</p><p><br /></p><p>From there we cover anxious attachment and the tricky habit of justifying everything as a "need" in a relationship, plus tangents on bedroom vs living room mums, boomers with no filter, Erica missing extended family, and her plan to start a regular games night (tips very welcome).</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p>🎙️ Fingers Crossed is a female friendship podcast with honest chats about mental health and life, hosted by Erica and Megan</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p>chapters:</p><p>00:00 intro</p><p>01:04 female hypervigilance</p><p>04:45 feeling safe around men</p><p>09:34 chronic fawn response</p><p>19:49 bedroom vs living room mum</p><p>32:40 games night</p><p>35:11 lacking family</p><p>40:08 boomers with no filter</p><p>44:55 anxious attachment and “needs” in a relationship</p><p>58:27 outro</p><p><br /></p>