You Are Somebody's Cup of Tea with JessJess

Pinecones, this week I'm talking to JessJess — party producer, president of Mission Control, organizer with the Bonobo Network, and the woman behind Beyond the Rainbow Events, which throws some of the most thoughtfully inclusive parties in the Bay Area. She's also been non-monogamous since high school, survived a marriage that ended in a way I wouldn't wish on anybody, and rebuilt her whole life inside a community that actually showed up for her. This conversation is about kink and parties and rope suspension, but what it's really about is what it takes to believe you're wanted exactly as you are. You don't have to be kinky, poly, or anywhere near a play party for that one to hit.

In this episode:

How JessJess ended up with three boyfriends and a girlfriend in high school, plus a full safer-sex negotiation at seventeenWhy she and her husband said "open relationship" for years, because nobody had handed them a better wordWhat happens when the person you've loved for twenty years becomes someone you don't recognizeHer first kink party: unicorn hair and a pink strappy outfit in a room full of black and redThuddy vs. sting-y impact play, and the scene where she discovered that her body talksThe femdom party where a man volunteered to be her footstoolWhat emotional play actually is, and how going into an insecurity on purpose taught her to feel jealousy in her body before reacting to itWhy tops sometimes need aftercare tooThe sexy dinner party where she was the biggest person in the room and got more attention than anyone elseAnd how patriarchy sold all of us the lie that only one kind of body gets to be wanted — a lie that has cost every single one of us something

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Beyond the Rainbow Events LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/beyondtherainbowevents

--> that link will take you to JessJess's events on Plura, Fetlife, and everywhere else

JessJess's Personal Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/dapperbetch

Beyond the Rainbow Events on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/beyondtherainbowevents

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