Hot Slut on a Train with Natalie Davis

Natalie Davis was a straight-and-narrow, rule-following lawyer mom who married her college boyfriend and fully expected to live happily ever after inside the white-picket-fence monogamy model.

Then her husband cheated—and eventually asked whether they could start having sex with other people.

What followed was messy, painful, liberating, awkward, sexy, and completely life-altering. Natalie is now the author of Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory, a radically candid memoir about surviving infidelity, dismantling everything she thought she knew about marriage, and discovering a version of herself she never knew existed.

You know...like being a hot slut on a train.

In this episode:

Why Natalie never questioned monogamy before her husband’s affairThe humiliation of being cheated on—and why she couldn’t bring herself to tell her friendsHow infidelity became an unexpected doorway into consensual non-monogamyThe difference between choosing polyamory and being polyamorous under duressWhy staying after betrayal doesn’t make someone a coward or a doormatWatching your partner put effort into dates with someone else and realizing he never dated you that wayWhy people are sometimes more comfortable with secret cheating than consensual non-monogamyNatalie’s first swinger partyWhat swinging taught her about boundaries, desire, and speaking upFalling in love with another partner for the first timeComing out as polyamorous to family, coworkers, and her childWhy non-monogamous people still need legal protection from discriminationThe public-sex adventures that transformed a responsible lawyer mom into a hot slut on a trainRoadhead, parking-garage blowjobs, sexting, roleplay, and discovering what turns you on in your fortiesWhy consensual secrecy can deliver the thrill of cheating without the betrayalNatalie’s current liminal dating eraWhat it’s really like living in a resident V with her husband and metamourThe difference between a V and a throupleThe difference between a living arrangement that feels peaceful and one filled with constant low-level tensionWhy relationships don’t have to last forever to have been successfulAnd why Natalie’s story isn’t finished until she’s dead

READ SAYING YES: MY ADVENTURES IN POLYAMORY:

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FOLLOW NATALIE DAVIS:

Website: https://nataliedavisadventures.com/

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