How Do You Rebuild Your Life After Losing Everything in One Day? With Dr. Carolyn Colleen

How Do You Rebuild Your Life After Losing Everything in One Day? With Dr. Carolyn Colleen3 Aug46 min

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What do you do when your body starts shaking and your legs won't carry you into your own house? This week Monique and I sit down with Dr. Carolyn Colleen, and she takes us straight into the driveway of her old life, mid panic attack, moments before she had to walk in and start the conversation that would end her marriage.Monique and I met Dr. Carolyn Colleen the way so many of the best friendships start now, in a Zoom room, feeling her energy through a screen and knowing we wanted more of it in our orbit. In person it was instant, the kind of connection where you just know the stars lined up on purpose.Dr. Colleen's story starts with storms. Not metaphorical ones she read about, real ones she lived through from a young age. She walks us through the moment everything cracked open, sitting in her car in the driveway, hands locked on the wheel, heart racing, in the middle of her first ever panic attack, right before she had to go inside and begin the end of her marriage. From there she built what she calls the fierce method, a tool she now teaches women all over the world, and she takes us all the way to the stage of the United Nations to show us what's possible when you stop bracing for the storm and start learning to move through it.KEY THEMES AND TAKEAWAYSStorms in life don't stop coming, but we can get better at navigating themA panic attack in the driveway became the turning point Dr. Colleen needed to rewrite her storyThe fierce method breaks down to breathe, focus, fierce action, your BFF for the hard momentsBig change doesn't require a big leap, it just requires five minutes at a timeEmotions like anxiety and worry aren't the enemy, they can be harnessed as fuelA 20 year goal to speak at the United Nations was reached in under three years once she let go of what wasn't hers to carryReal growth is about who you're being, not just what you're doingOUR FAVORITE QUOTES"I didn't know what it was and I couldn't move.""Is this storm going to break me, or is it going to elevate me?""Your new best friend is right inside of you.""We're not necessarily getting rid of the old pathways, what we're doing is creating new ones.""How are you choosing to be, not the human doing?"CHAPTER MARKERS07:57 The panic attack in the driveway09:16 Choosing who to be before walking inside13:08 Dreaming a 20 year goal out loud14:32 Standing at the UN, three years ahead of schedule17:55 Breathe, focus, fierce action, meet your BFF22:09 Five minutes at a time37:24 Human being over human doingYOUR TURNThis week's reflection: where in your life are you bracing for a storm instead of learning to move through it? What would it look like to give yourself just five minutes to choose who you want to be next?-----All Heart & Soul's Details:Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠<a href="https://www.heartandsoulmastermind.com/">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.heartandsoulmastermind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a>Join the mastermind program:<a href="https://www.heartandsoulmastermind.com/heartsoul">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.heartandsoulmastermind.com/heartsoul⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a>Say hi to Mariah on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@mariahmckechnieSay hi to Monique on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@moniqueforcierLeave a review on the Apple Podcast app and the Spotify app: ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️MB01X6UYDWY85KP