Stepmom Life: Co-Parenting, Boundaries & Blended Families

In this episode of Hot Mom Shit, I'm sitting down with Alyssa and Becca from Stepmom Side Chats  and I'm not gonna lie, I felt so seen the second I found their page that I had to have them on. I talk about my step kids, but I've never really gotten into the actual ins and outs of stepmom life, and these two go there in a way I've never heard anyone go there before.

We get into how they became best friends at a tiny Christian college in Texas, how a text thread about marrying men with kids turned into a full podcast, and why their "Sunday Stepmom Secrets" confessional became a lifeline for so many women. 

Alyssa opens up about her high-conflict co-parenting situation and years in and out of court. Becca talks through blending two very different bio-mom relationships, and we get real about the stuff you'd never say out loud because it feels too ugly to admit. 

We also talk about what changes once you have your own biological kids after being a stepmom first and how to talk to your husband about his kids without it turning into a fight.

In this episode we get real about:

How Alyssa and Becca met at a Christian college in Abilene, Texas and bonded as the "outsiders"

Sunday Stepmom Secrets, the anonymous confessional that became everyone's free therapy

Alyssa's high-conflict co-parenting situation — court, CPS, and a bio mom who struggles to let the kids be happy

The #1 thing stepmoms confess to them: not knowing how to talk to their husband about his kids

Why having your own biological kid changes how you see your stepkids

The stuff no one admits out loud: the mess, the smell, the sick-kid anxiety, wanting kids to just go home

Fill in the blank: "Being a stepmom taught me ___"