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Ep. 163 This is not your forever, but it is your for now

Ep. 163 This is not your forever, but it is your for now27 Jul19 min

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Episode SummaryHave you ever looked at your life and thought, "I know I'm capable of more than this."

Whether you're living with your parents, working a job that feels beneath your qualifications, recovering from an injury, or simply feeling like life isn't moving as quickly as you hoped, it's easy to believe you've somehow fallen behind.

In this episode, I share a coaching conversation with one of my clients that completely changed how she viewed her career—and how it applies to every twenty-something navigating adulthood. We unpack the three biggest reasons we resist taking the stepping stones in front of us: ego, expectations, and comparison. I explain why your ego is often disappointment in disguise, how unrealistic expectations trap you into believing there's only one "right" timeline, and why comparing your behind-the-scenes to someone else's highlight reel will always leave you feeling like you're losing.

Most importantly, I want to remind you that where you are today doesn't have to be where you stay. Your current season isn't your forever—it's simply your for now. Every stepping stone, even the frustrating ones, is preparing you for opportunities you can't yet see.

In This Episode We DiscussWhy your current season doesn't define your futureThe hidden cost of letting your ego make career decisionsHow expectations create unnecessary disappointmentWhy comparison keeps you feeling behindThe importance of taking stepping stones instead of waiting for the "perfect" opportunityHow to recognize the value in jobs or experiences that don't feel excitingWhy your twenties are about adapting, not following a perfect planA practical exercise to help you appreciate where you are today

Who This Episode Is ForThis episode is for you if...

You feel like you're behind everyone else your age.You're frustrated by a job that feels beneath your qualifications.You're living with your parents longer than expected.You're rebuilding after a setback, injury, or difficult season.You're wondering if taking a "small" opportunity means settling.

Key TakeawaysEvery stepping stone serves a purpose, even if you can't see it yet.Ego often disguises itself as disappointment.Expectations should evolve as life gives you new information.Your first opportunity doesn't have to be your forever career.Comparison steals your ability to appreciate your own progress.Social media rarely shows the difficult parts of someone's journey.Small opportunities often create bigger ones later.Looking back at your own story helps you recognize how far you've come.Give yourself timelines for temporary seasons so they feel intentional.Your "for now" can become the foundation for everything you want next.

Frequently Asked QuestionsWhy do I feel behind in my twenties?

Because you're comparing your real life to other people's visible milestones while holding yourself to expectations that may no longer fit your life.