#50: Permission to not have it figured out with Kate Johnson

<p>Sometimes in life, we can get a bit paralysed from making a decision out of the fear of getting it wrong. In this episode, I chat with Kate Johnson and what her version of this used to look like and what she did about it. </p><p>We also chatted about her old perfectionist and fixer parts like to jump in on the act with the best of intentions.</p><p>Kate has a number of really practical examples of how she has found new ways to hang with these old parts.</p><p><strong>What we talked about in this episode:</strong></p><ul><li>The four types of &quot;FRACing&quot; (fixing, rescuing, advice-giving, caretaking) and which one shows up most for Kate.</li><li>What she got from being the fixer in her relationships and what it quietly cost her.</li><li>Learning to listen instead of solve and the difference it made to her friendships.</li><li>Giving her own kids permission to make decisions and change their minds, versus how she was raised.</li><li>Quitting drinking nine years ago and what surfaced once the numbing stopped.</li><li>Chronic pain, surgery recovery and how cutting off physical sensation bled into cutting off feelings generally.</li><li>Anxiety and excitement feeling almost identical in her body and how she&#39;s learned to tell them apart.</li><li>What it&#39;s felt like to have capacity again after years of running on empty.</li><li>Making peace with the parts of herself that used to run the show, without needing to fight them.</li></ul><p><br></p><p>If you have ever felt like you needed to get all your life ducks in a row, this episodes is a great example of what life looks like when you let go of needing things to be perfect.</p><p><br></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/kate_does_life/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">Connect with Kate</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/rickwatson_/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">Connect with Rick </a></p>