Why Do We Get Mad at Reality, Not Our Assumptions?

In this episode of *I Got Kuestions*, Kadie starts with a small, funny mishap — buying a Harry Potter poncho at Universal Orlando that turns out to be water resistant, not waterproof — and uses it to unpack something much bigger: how often we get upset at reality when the real issue is our own assumption.

Kadie breaks down what actually happened with the poncho: nobody lied to her, the label was accurate, but she filled in a gap with what seemed obvious and treated that assumption like a fact. From there, she connects it to a pattern she’s noticed in herself — because she thinks in systems and processes things quickly, certain things feel completely obvious to her, and she can forget that other people haven’t had the same context she has. When they don’t act on something she assumed was clear, frustration follows — but the miscommunication usually started with the assumption, not the other person.

The episode lands on a simple, practical takeaway: when frustration hits, pause and ask, ”is this a fact, or is this something I assumed?” That one question, Kadie explains, often reveals that reality was never the problem — the unmet expectation was self-authored all along.

The episode closes with this week’s No Stupid Kuestions and the Kuestion of the Week: *”What’s an assumption you’ve caught yourself making lately — and what would it look like to check it before it turns into frustration?