What a Porn Star Taught Me About Consent, Desire, and Being Yourself: A Conversation with Jake Apton

<p><strong>A note for clients and anyone who knows me personally:</strong> This episode contains explicit sexual content and detailed personal disclosure. If you aren't sure whether to listen, don't. If you can listen with curiosity and take good care of yourself along the way, please do. You're always welcome to bring whatever comes up into our next session.</p><p><br /></p><p>Michelle sits down with Jake Apton, a porn performer, stripper, cosplayer, and self-described "big fucking nerd" she briefly met at the AVN Expo in January but never really got to know. What starts as a tour of Jake's deeply personal tattoo collection quickly opens into a wide-ranging conversation about building a life and career in sex work, navigating identity and attraction as a gay man who "doesn't read gay," the surprising overlap between anime convention culture and adult entertainment, and what it means to reclaim your relationship with your own libido. They play a few rounds of We're Not Really Strangers, swap stories about armpits (yes, really), and land in unexpectedly tender territory about friend breakups, depression, and the people in your life who aren't "people." Those are the ones you can just sit on a couch with and not say a word. A warm, unscripted, delightfully wide-open conversation with someone Michelle barely knew before hitting record and now kind of feels like she does.</p><p><br /></p><p>Jake Apton is a porn performer, exotic dancer, cosplayer, and content creator based in New York City. You can find all his links at <a href="https://lnk.bio/jcapwolf" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://lnk.bio/jcapwolf</a>.</p><p><br /></p><p>Michelle Renee (she/her) is a therapeutic intimacy specialist, trained as both a Cuddle Therapist and Surrogate Partner, and a co-owner at <a href="https://cuddlist.com" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://Cuddlist.com</a>. She practices a trauma-informed, consent-based approach that helps folks of all genders rebuild trust with touch, set clear boundaries, and access authentic pleasure ... at their own pace. She serves clients nationwide as a holistic intimacy coach and partners with therapists to integrate somatic, consent-based healing. Michelle's websites are<a href="https://meetmichellerenee.com" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer"> ⁠https://meetmichellerenee.com⁠⁠</a> and<a href="https://humanconnectioncoach.com" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer"> ⁠https://humanconnectionlab.com⁠</a> and she can be found on social media at<a href="https://instagram.com/meetmichellerenee" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer"> ⁠https://instagram.com/meetmichellerenee⁠</a>.</p><p><br /></p><p>If you’d like to ask a question for Michelle to answer on an episode, or you’d like to join her for an Intimacy Lab Experience, visit <a href="https://intimacylabpodcast.com" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://intimacylabpodcast.com</a>.</p><p><br /></p><p>To grab your own set of We’re Not Really Strangers <a href="https://amzn.to/47XJjvm" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://amzn.to/47XJjvm</a></p><p><br />Become a Cuddlist Certified Touch Practitioner and save 10%: https://<a href="http://cuddlist.com" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">Cuddlist.com</a> Use code MEETMICHELLERENEE for 10% off</p><p><br /></p>