Episode #136 Setting boundaries

There is a word that high-performing Black lawyers consistently struggle to say. A word that, when they learn to use it, transforms their careers, their health, and the way people treat them at work.

That word is no.

I know. You already know this. You've heard it before. So here's the real question: why aren't you saying it?

Because the cost of not saying it is higher than you think. Not just the missed sleep and the mounting overwhelm. Not just the deadlines that slip and the inbox that never empties. The real cost is this: you will not get promoted until you learn how to set boundaries.

In Episode 136 of the Legal Imposters Podcast, I'm talking about boundaries — what they actually are, why you're not setting them, and exactly how to start.

Here's what we cover:

- What setting a boundary actually means (hint: it's simpler than you think, and it starts with a decision)

- The signs that you've already crossed the line — from the overwhelm and the panic to the missed opportunities and the things still waiting for you

- The real reasons you keep saying yes — and why "I'm expected to" and "I don't want to let people down" are keeping you stuck

- A four-part framework for how to set boundaries that actually hold

- How to position your no — the non-negotiable no, the conditional no, the strategic no, and yes, the strategic yes

- How to handle the discomfort that comes with doing this for the first time