How Much Of Yourself Have You Abandoned For Love? | For Mannerless Women

What happens when loving someone slowly becomes abandoning yourself?

In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with businesswoman, creative and MC Dushy Kuria for an honest conversation about divorce, relationships, therapy, self-worth and finding your way back to yourself.For the first time, Dushy speaks publicly about her divorce, from what led her into marriage at 26, to the moment she realised that if someone was going to choose her, it had to be her. They unpack the ways women can be conditioned to confuse love with endless sacrifice, why chaos can feel familiar when you haven't experienced calm love, and how low self-esteem can shape the relationships we choose, even when we appear confident on the outside.

Dushy also shares the messier side of healing after divorce: partying, dating, missing her marriage, trying again, going to therapy and learning that knowing better doesn't immediately mean doing better. And eventually, finding her way home to herself. In this conversation:

Why women can confuse love with self-abandonmentDushy's journey through marriage and divorceSearching for safety through romantic relationshipsThe pressure of being a firstborn daughterConfidence vs. self-esteemWhy chaos can feel like loveWhat therapy taught Dushy about why she stayedThe messy, nonlinear reality of healingRebuilding self-trust after a relationshipLearning to leave relationships soonerFinding safety within yourselfRediscovering the parts of yourself you lost in loveLetting go of the need to be chosenWhat healthy love and marriage mean to Dushy nowDushy also shares Maya Angelou's Still I Rise as her Mannerless Message, a powerful reminder of our capacity to rise, rebuild and reclaim ourselves.

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