150: The Pleasure Zone: Healing Trauma Through Orgasms with Milica Jelenic | Lizzie Ens

Why can't you orgasm? Here's the thing, it's rarely about your body. It's about your nervous system, your nerve endings, and whether you feel safe enough to let go. If you've spent years wondering what an orgasm even is, or you shut down the second someone touches you, you are not broken. You were never taught.

On this episode of The Lizzie Ens Show, Lizzie sits down with Milica Jelenic, a holistic health practitioner with over 20 years of experience in somatic body work and sexual health education, and author of The Pleasure Zone, a number one Amazon bestseller in women's sexual health.

You'll learn what actually happens in your body during a full body orgasm, how cortisol and oxytocin work together to relieve stress, and how somatic practices like EMDR and family constellations help you heal sexual trauma. Your pleasure is not shameful. It is information.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why so many women never experience a full body orgasm, and what actually has to happen in the nervous system for one to occur Where the clitoris is located and why it has over 10,000 nerve endings, more than researchers originally believed How cortisol, oxytocin, and endorphins interact during orgasm to physically relieve stress and anxiety Why sexual trauma shuts down your ability to feel pleasure, and how somatic body work and EMDR help you heal it How posture and nervous system regulation directly affect your capacity for intimacy and pleasure Why perimenopause and postpartum change your relationship to sex, and what actually helps during both What Milica's book The Pleasure Zone teaches about reclaiming your sexual confidence, one chapter at a time

We talk about:

00:00 Meet Milica Jelenic, holistic health practitioner and pleasure educator

02:47 Why sex education was taboo growing up and how that shapes women today

09:20 The history of doctor-prescribed orgasms and where vibrators came from

10:03 Wilhelm Reich, orgone energy, and healing through orgasm

11:47 Why are orgasms important for women reclaiming their pleasure

15:59 What is a full body orgasm and how your body gets there