What Women Fantasize About with Literary Erotica Founder Carly Pifer of Aurore

<p>What if your “low libido” is actually a lack of imagination?</p><p>In this episode, Natassia sits down with writer Carly Pifer, founder of literary erotica platform <a href="http://readaurore.com" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Aurore</a>, to explore what women really want, how responsive desire styles get turned on by storytelling and why reading erotica is such an effective form of low-pressure foreplay.</p><p>Carly shares the real‑life experiences that inspired her crowdsourced erotica platform—from interviewing strangers about their intimate lives in bars and going on Tinder “research dates” across Europe to rewriting painful relationships through erotic fiction and helping women feel less ashamed of what turns them on.</p><p>For the past two years, Natassia has been an avid reader of Aurore’s stories and loves how it offers a playful way to sample different scenarios, learn what actually lights you up (and what doesn’t), and bring those discoveries back into your own sex life. If you’re curious, use code NATASSIA to get 10% off your subscription at <a href="http://readaurore.com" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">readaurore.com</a>.</p><p><br /></p><p>00:00 – Why women connect more with erotica than porn</p><p>02:00 – Responsive desire vs spontaneous desire</p><p>04:18 – Erotica as a place you go mentally</p><p>05:25 – Writing through body image insecurities</p><p>08:16 – Turning insecurity into eroticism</p><p>09:39 – Building Aurore and crowdsourced erotica</p><p>10:30 – Why romance novels don’t work for everyone</p><p>12:02 – Feeling emotionally safe during sex</p><p>13:32 – The rise of “real eaters”</p><p>15:44 – Interviewing strangers about sex in bars</p><p>18:21 – What people secretly reveal about intimacy</p><p>20:03 – Bathroom habits and relationship comfort</p><p>22:09 – Pubic hair trends and attraction</p><p>24:34 – Tinder dates across Europe</p><p>27:12 – Why men struggle to talk about intimacy</p><p>28:55 – Two Frenchmen in Paris story</p><p>32:12 – Why sex gets better with age</p><p>33:35 – Writing erotica as emotional healing</p><p>35:01 – Men learning oral sex from lesbian stories</p><p>36:25 – What women actually want sexually</p><p>37:18 – Fantasies as clues to your deeper desires</p><p>39:16 – Using erotica to communicate with partners</p><p>41:10 – How to start talking about fantasies</p><p>43:45 – Why sexual coaching matters</p><p>44:16 – Making quickies hotter through fantasy</p><p>45:16 – Love Is Blind and relationship psychology</p><p>46:43 – The rebellious origins of Aurore</p><p>48:05 – Straight men writing erotica</p><p>50:15 – The jeans story and male desire</p><p>51:10 – Why threesomes dominate fantasies</p><p>53:09 – Female gaze, dick pics, and visual desire</p><p>55:14 – Writing erotica to heal sexual trauma</p><p>56:34 – Understanding consensual non-consent fantasies</p><p>59:10 – Rewriting trauma through fantasy</p><p>01:01:06 – A powerful body acceptance writing exercise</p><p>01:02:22 – Final thoughts and where to find Carly</p><p><br /></p><p>It’s really hard to feel sexy when your vagina feels off. If you’re bracing for irritation, infections, or yet another post‑sex UTI, it’s almost impossible to stay present in the bedroom. <a href="https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Momotaro Apotheca</a> offers organic solutions that Natassia uses everyday to take care of her intimate health—from their soothing balm, Salve, to their UTI supplement, probiotic, and yeast infection suppository. Build your own ritual at <a href="https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust</a> and get 20% off with code LUST.</p><p>⸻</p><p>Lust in Translation Podcast</p><p>Subscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠<a href="http://lustintranslation.com" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">lustintranslation.com</a> ⁠</p><p><br /></p