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1842 || embrace your shadow + become the "villain"

1842 || embrace your shadow + become the "villain"2 Sept11 min

Do no harm but take no shit.

Historically, especially under a patriarchal rule, women have been taught to be selfless, self sacrificing, useful, and kind over everything else.

The goal is to be seen and not heard. To be pleasant and palatable. While I think those are great virtues and attributes under a normal context, the patriarchy is not a normal context. Our society puts profits over people, so being taught to be self sacrificing is dangerous. Our society doesn’t have our best interest at heart. Am I telling you to not be kind, or generous? No. I am telling you to back off of the self sacrificing role that a lot of us were forced into. Compliance, obedience, and self sacrifice is dangerous, yet it’s what many of us women were taught as the “normal” expectation of us.

Remember that Matilda couldn't access her magic until she was pissed off.

SOURCES:

https://meridianuniversity.edu/content/shadow-work-meaning-in-jungian-psychology-explainedhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassionate-feminism/202505/the-post-forties-villain-erahttps://livstclaire.substack.com/p/villain-era

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