124: Part 8/8, Relationship Death Doulas Talk Repair, Intimacy & Rebirth: Designing a Relationship that Works Series

124: Part 8/8, Relationship Death Doulas Talk Repair, Intimacy & Rebirth: Designing a Relationship that Works Series

What if the problem isn't your relationship… it's that you won't let it die? In this episode, Andrea & Janelle interview relationship death doulas Yana Rumi and Cari Caldwell, who don't just "work on" their relationship—they burn it down on purpose. No catastrophe required. Just a willingness to stop pretending, drop the roles, and meet each other again from zero. Truth: most relationships don't fail because of conflict—they suffocate under unspoken agreements, stale identities, and quiet resentment. Like computers, relationships require a defrag and a restart ;-). You'll hear:

-About the flatlined nature of "Happily Ever After"

-Why you should schedule sex without intercourse expectation

-How predictability can be such a cage

-Truth: Repair isn't a failure, its a gym where the intimacy muscles get stronger

-How jealousy, desire and curiosity are all just sensations

Why they're NOT committed to forever, but to each other's fullest expression

-The beauty of choosing each other again after brief separation

-Validation about the "weight of survival"

Learn more at relationshipdeathdoulas.life

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