E276: How Do You Turn Your Partner On? (When You've Been Together For Years)

At the start of a relationship, turning your partner on felt like it took basically no effort.

So what do you do a decade in, when you've watched each other fart and floss, and nothing seems to happen on its own anymore?

In this episode, you'll hear:

Why nothing sexy happens spontaneously after about six months, and what has to replace it

The thing you have to clear out of the way before you can build desire at all

Which of the four desire types you and your partner each are, and why it changes how you initiate

How to flirt with someone you've been with for years without feeling ridiculous

The compliment swap that makes it actually land, and what to say instead of "you're hot"

Why initiating in the moment is already too late, and when to start instead

What our community said gets them in the mood, from grey sweatpants to a longer than usual kiss in the kitchen

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