Being a "Good Girl" Is a Scam , Here's Why (With Sangeeta Pillai)

<p>Sangeeta grew up in the slums of Mumbai, fought her way out of an arranged marriage, and became the founder of Soul Sutras and the multi-award-winning Masala Podcast, the UK&#39;s biggest South Asian feminist platform. </p><p><br></p><p>In this episode we go deep on the mother wound, generational trauma, and the specific kind of shame South Asian women are raised to carry. We talk about reclaiming the word &quot;bossy,&quot; growing up under patriarchy in Mumbai, immigrant shame, healing her relationship with her mother, leaving India for London, and re-rooting in Kerala to find belonging. We also get into redefining South Asian culture on your own terms, the stigma around loneliness, building genuine community, the &quot;man hater&quot; label thrown at feminists, real male allyship, breaking scarcity mindset, and reconnecting with your body and pleasure.</p><p><br></p><p>If you&#39;ve ever felt like tired of being “good” this one is for you</p><p><br></p><p><strong>TIMESTAMPS:</strong></p><p>00:00:00 – Introduction: Meet Sangeeta  Pillai</p><p>00:00:46 – Reclaiming The Word Bossy &amp; Speaking Up</p><p>00:02:31 – Growing Up In Mumbai &amp; Overcoming Patriarchy</p><p>00:04:53 – The Societal Function Of Shame</p><p>00:07:05 – Unpacking Cultural Shame As Immigrants</p><p>00:09:36 – Healing The Mother Wound &amp; Generational Trauma</p><p>00:13:58 – Leaving The Motherland &amp; Moving To London</p><p>00:16:50 – Re-Rooting And Finding Belonging In Kerala</p><p>00:20:22 – Redefining South Asian Culture On Your Own Terms</p><p>00:24:35 – The Hidden Stigma And Shame Around Loneliness</p><p>00:28:13 – Evolving Identity And Outgrowing Old Spaces</p><p>00:29:29 – How To Build A Genuine And Intentional Community</p><p>00:33:37 – Navigating The &quot;Man Hater&quot; Label As A Feminist</p><p>00:37:18 – How Men Can Show Up As True Allies To Women</p><p>00:39:15 – Breaking The Scarcity Mindset Among Women</p><p>00:41:48 – Learning To Relax, Let Go, And Receive Abundance</p><p>00:44:35 – Reconnecting With Your Body &amp; Calming Your Nervous System</p><p>00:47:25 – Expanding Your Lexicon Of Pleasure As A Woman</p><p>00:50:24 – Conclusion: Where To Find Sangeeta </p><p><br></p><p>Follow and Connect with Sangeeta:</p><p>Sangeeta’s Website <a href="https://soulsutras.co.uk/about-sangeeta-pillai/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://soulsutras.co.uk/about-sangeeta-pillai/</a></p><p>Follow Sangeeta on instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/soulsutras/?hl=en" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://www.instagram.com/soulsutras/?hl=en</a></p><p>Connect with Sangeeta on Linkedin </p><p><a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/sangeeta-pillai-soul-sutras-398a821a?originalSubdomain=uk" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://www.linkedin.com/in/sangeeta-pillai-soul-sutras-398a821a?originalSubdomain=uk</a></p><p>Masala Podcast : <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/7eCWGNxaofWADklejsML95" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://open.spotify.com/show/7eCWGNxaofWADklejsML95</a></p><p><br></p><p><strong>BUILD YOUR BOLDEST + BOSSIEST LIFE/ CAREER</strong></p><p>Bossy Behind the Scenes: Essays, reflections, resources and all the behind-the-scenes of building a bold, bossy life.</p><p><a href="https://substack.com/@bossybehindthescenes">⁠https://substack.com/@bossybehindthescenes⁠</a></p><p><br></p><p><strong>WORK WITH ME</strong></p><p>Creator/Founder Office Hours: Bring me your ideas, questions or whatever you’re stuck on, and we’ll turn it into a plan.</p><p><a href="https://calendly.com/maahika/mentoring?back=1">⁠https://calendly.com/maahika/mentoring?back=1⁠</a></p><p><br></p><p>Founders + brands: Work with me on storytelling, personal branding, content and strategy through Empower Sounds Media.</p><p><br></p><p>Book a Strategy Session : <a href="https://calendly.com/maahika/branding-strategy-session?back=1&month=2026-07">⁠https://calendly.com/maahika/branding-strategy-session?back=1&a