Whatever Makes You Want To Throw Up

The thing you're most afraid to do is rarely the thing that's meant to stop you. More often, it's the thing that's meant to introduce you to the next version of yourself.

In today's solo episode of She Wears the Pants, Ashley Deland explores one of the greatest misconceptions about fear. Instead of seeing it as something to overcome, silence, or eliminate, she offers a completely different perspective: fear isn't the obstacle standing between you and your next level. It's the compass pointing you toward it.

Through personal stories, reflections on entrepreneurship, and the lessons she's learned building businesses and leading women through expansion, Ashley unpacks why we naturally cling to comfort, why stability can quietly become a ceiling, and how every meaningful season of growth begins by walking toward the very thing we've been avoiding.

If you're a founder, entrepreneur, or ambitious woman standing at the edge of a difficult decision, navigating uncertainty, or feeling called toward something bigger than your current reality, this conversation will challenge you to stop asking how to make fear disappear and start asking what it's trying to show you.

In this episode, Ashley shares how to:

• Recognize why fear is often the strongest indicator that you're standing at the edge of meaningful growth

• Release the belief that comfort and stability are always signs you're on the right path

• Understand why your greatest opportunities are often hidden inside the conversations, decisions, and risks you've been avoiding

• Reframe life's most difficult seasons as invitations into expansion rather than evidence that something has gone wrong

• Develop the courage to pursue your calling before external circumstances force you to grow

• Trust that the challenges you're facing today may become the very foundation of the woman and business you're becoming

By the end of this episode, you'll see fear through an entirely different lens. Rather than something to manage, you'll begin to recognize it as evidence that your next level is within reach. Because the women who continue to grow aren't the ones who wait until they feel fearless. They're the ones who learn to walk toward what scares them, trusting that every stretch, every challenge, and every uncomfortable season is shaping them into the leader their calling requires.