
← The ADHD Parenting Podcast22 Jul · 26 min
Competent Roles for Kids with ADHD
<p>Hosts Ryan and Mike make the case that children with ADHD don't need fewer responsibilities — they need better-scaffolded, consistent ones. They introduce the idea of a "competent role": an ongoing, child-owned job that genuinely matters to the family, distinct from a random chore. Along the way they name the "high giving, low expectations" trap that well-meaning parents fall into, explain why learned helplessness gets weaponized to escape non-preferred tasks, and walk through the executive-function skills these roles quietly build. The episode closes with a practical playbook for creating one competent role this week, grounded in research on autonomy, competence, and relatedness.</p><p><br></p><p>Find Mike @ <a href="https://www.grownowadhd.com/">www.grownowadhd.com</a> & on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/grownowadhd/">IG</a><br>Find Ryan @ <a href="https://www.adhddude.com/">www.adhddude.com</a> & on <a href="https://www.youtube.com/c/ADHDDudeRyanWexelblattLCSW">Youtube</a></p><p><br></p><p>{{chapters}}</p><p>[00:00:00] Start</p><p>[00:02:14] What a Competent Role Actually Is</p><p>[00:04:09] High Giving, Low Expectations</p><p>[00:11:09] The Four Parts of a Competent Role</p><p>[00:14:19] How Roles Build Executive Function</p><p>[00:16:50] Create One Competent Role This Week</p>