What Did You Expect Healing to Look Like? Part 2

What does healing actually look like — not in theory, but right now, in the middle of your real life?

In part one, Jamie and Blake laid the foundation: the hidden rules they carried into healing, why they thought it meant fixing themselves, and how those expectations got in the way. Now they're back to answer the harder question — what does cultivating the garden actually look like for them today? Nearly a decade into their respective journeys through therapy, 12-step recovery, and story work, they're both currently going through it, and they're not pretending otherwise.

If you're somewhere in the middle of your own healing and wondering why it doesn't look like what you thought it would, this one's for you.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Why healing is an ongoing journey, not a destination — and the difference between healing and healed

What self-abandonment actually means and how it quietly shows up in relationships

Why what looks like trusting yourself and going to addiction is actually your intuition asking for care with a maladaptive solution

How abuse systematically disorients your intuition — and what coming home to it looks like

Why forgiveness is a process you begin, not a moment you complete

Why holding onto resentment feels like power but functions like a prison

What tending the garden actually looks like in the day-to-day

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