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She Grew Up In Poverty, Was Abused By Her Father, Abandoned At 15 — And Turned It Into A Life Changing Others | Pamela Millican

Pamela Millican survived one of the toughest childhoods you'll ever hear about — extreme poverty, domestic violence, sexual abuse, and being abandoned as a teenager — and turned it into a career helping others heal their identity, rebuild self-worth and reset their mindset. In this raw, unfiltered episode of Tomorrow Is Not Today, host Kingsley sits down with mindset coach, NLP master and trauma recovery specialist Pamela Milliken to unpack how childhood beliefs quietly run your entire adult life, and how to finally break free of them.

Pamela opens up about growing up on one of England's roughest council estates, surviving a violent father and an absent mother, being sexually abused by a family member, and coming home from a family holiday at 15 to find her house empty and her family gone. She explains how she turned that trauma into two law and psychology degrees, became a European surfing champion within 12 months of picking up a board for the first time, and now helps clients, including survivors of serious abuse, create breakthrough results in hours, not years.

This conversation is a masterclass in identity work, self-worth, people-pleasing, trauma healing, NLP, hypnotherapy and mindset coaching, delivered with total honesty and zero fluff. If you've ever felt stuck being who other people need you to be, this episode will change how you listen to your own story.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:

Why your identity, not your circumstances, controls your results

How childhood beliefs are formed before age 13 and run your life on autopilot

Why "there's no failure, only feedback" changes everything

How to know if you're an overachiever driven by trauma, not passion

Why comfort and familiarity keep people trapped in bad relationships

The 3 rules Pamela uses to shut down gossip instantly

How to rebuild trust and safety after abandonment or betrayal