Why You Should Stop Trying to Fix Your Heartbreak (And What to Do Instead) with LiYana Silver

Relationship coach and author Liyana Silver joins Catherine Llewellyn to explore how heartbreak, divorce and life's darkest seasons can become profound portals of transformation. Drawing on her own experience and her work with women, couples and groups, Liyana shares what she has learned about the Dark Night of the Soul, the phases of heartbreak, and why the depths can reveal a more authentic and aligned version of ourselves.They discuss the importance of allowing difficult emotions to move through us rather than trying to think or strategise our way out of them, how nervous-system support can help during the most acute phases, and why the right kind of support depends on where we are in the journey. This is a compassionate conversation about finding wisdom, courage and ultimately greater aliveness in the midst of profound change.#DarkNightOfTheSoul #HeartbreakHealing #TruthAndTranscendence

Where our conversation went:

00:00 Welcoming Liyana Silver and exploring the meaning of depth

01:39 How a difficult post-birth experience introduced Liyana to the Dark Night of the Soul

03:26 Naming the experience and discovering that it can be a transformational journey

06:00 Becoming an apprentice to the dark and mapping the terrain of heartbreak

09:35 The ancient wisdom and archetypal patterns within dark nights of the soul

12:58 Feeling difficult emotions fully and allowing them to move through

13:58 The wisdom of “the poison is the medicine”

15:17 Why transformation is not a makeover—and why dark nights may come more than once

17:40 Helping people through books, individual work and couples work

20:00 Supporting a partner who is going through their own dark night