33. "Some part of them believes....that they were scum, and then they start telling themselves that" Step 5: Disassembling

<p>In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, we dive into <strong>STEP 5</strong> of their <em><strong>eight step recovery model </strong></em>for men struggling with out-of-control sexual behaviors, such as porn use and sex addiction. Titled "<strong>Disassembling</strong>," this step focuses on breaking down the underlying patterns and coping mechanisms driving these behaviors. The conversation explores how unresolved trauma—whether big or small ("big T" or "little t")—often plays a hidden role, even when many men minimize or dismiss their own experiences.</p><p>We discuss the importance of acknowledging and addressing past trauma, recognizing harmful thought patterns, and understanding the self-perpetuating cycle of unhealthy coping mechanisms. We also touch on the resistance many men feel to labeling past experiences as traumatic, the societal stigma around acknowledging vulnerability, and the ways trauma impacts both individuals and their relationships. The episode encourages listeners to confront difficult truths, question negative self-beliefs, and seek healthier ways to cope and heal, all while emphasizing that meaningful change, though uncomfortable, is both possible and worthwhile.</p><p><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.canva.com/design/DAFvpZqrv3U/Ah9uPD5o39_dtVqKz-41aA/view?utm_content=DAFvpZqrv3U&amp;utm_campaign=designshare&amp;utm_medium=link2&amp;utm_source=uniquelinks&amp;utlId=h07c96e8333" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Eight Step Model viewable PDF</strong>⁠⁠</a></p><p>https://shorturl.at/MDJUC</p><p><br /></p><p><strong>Timestamps</strong>00:00 "Disassembling and Setting Boundaries"</p><p>06:13 "Mislabeling Childhood Sexual Abuse"</p><p>08:52 Recognizing Hidden Emotional Trauma</p><p>10:40 Disassembling Harmful Coping Mechanisms</p><p>15:00 Realizing and Overcoming Negative Coping</p><p>19:56 Systems Resist Change</p><p>20:58 Recovery Brings Challenges and Change</p><p>25:03 "Understanding Triggers and Actions"</p><p>28:50 "Affairs Aren't Real Life"</p><p>31:48 Breaking Harmful Coping Patterns</p><p>34:45 Surface vs. Deeper Behavioral Analysis</p><p>37:30 "Wet Dreams Podcast Disclaimer"</p><p><br /></p><p><a href="https://linktr.ee/wetdreamzpodcasthcs" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">LinkTree⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a><a href="www.facebook.com/wetdreamzpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a></p><p><a href="https://facebook.com/wetdreamzpodcast/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a><a href="www.tiktok.com/@wet.dreamz.podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a></p><p>⁠⁠⁠⁠<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@wet.dreamz.podcast" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a></p><p><br /></p><p>Music from #Uppbeat free for Creators!):⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://uppbeat.io/t/moire/new-life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠License code: 0SWIN8YAF7EIY6YI</p>