Overfunctioning

Overfunctioning is usually defined as taking on excess responsibility for other people’s feelings, issues, and tasks. And it's usually presumed to be tied to anxiety. IF someone's overfunctioning, it's either a symptom of or cause of the panic assumed to be lying just underneath.

But are we "overfunctioning" when we're doing our absolutely regular amount of way-too-much as a parent? Does anxiety have to have anything to do with it?

In this episode, we're talking about

the stress that comes with being the backstop

how to sense overfunctioning in ourselves as a potential barometer of anxiety

the MoSCoW method (Must Have, Should Have, Could Have, Won't Have) as a business-world framework that can help all of us discern what absolutely has to happen in a given "timebox"... and what might be able to wait

Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:

Kate Manne on Substack: In Defense of Mom Anxiety

Anne-Laure Le Cunff for Ness Labs: Overfunctioning: The Drive to Do it All, or When Helping Others Is Hurting You

Yunus Emre Yalçıner for Medium: The Moscow Method: A Comprehensive Guide to Prioritization in Project Management

And in response to this week's mailbag, here are a few of our past episodes specifically relevant to single / solo parenting:

Our episode Solo Parenting Seasons and How To Get Through Them