The Pickiness Curve Every Dancer Climbs

<p>For years the DJ would put on traditional old school Brazilian Zouk and I&#39;d walk off the floor. &quot;Ah, I don&#39;t like that type of music, I&#39;m gonna take a break.&quot; That was a lie. I didn&#39;t have the skills to enjoy it yet, and the day I learned them I loved it.</p><p><br></p><p>So when Gui tells me he got so picky only two or three followers could give him a good dance, down to where their head sat against his, I know that feeling.</p><p><br></p><p>He worked it out on the bus home from a social in Rio, where he realised he&#39;d danced all night without being present once, because he spent the whole thing hunting those two or three people. And whose fault was it, right?</p><p><br></p><p>What we get into:</p><p><br></p><p>→ Gui trained slow songs for years, then walked into a real Forró where Xote is five percent of the night. &quot;Lack of exposure, for sure lack of exposure.&quot;</p><p><br></p><p>→ You start in flip-flops, any song, anyone. Years later it&#39;s two kinds of socks in your backpack and one follower who &quot;knows how to dance with me.&quot;</p><p><br></p><p>→ &quot;Because Gui is a gelato snob.&quot; &quot;I am such a bitch. I&#39;m such a gelato snob, yes. And without shame.&quot;</p><p><br></p><p>→ The unpaid dance escort. Friday nights in Rio, one friend, met at the door, forty five minutes, nobody else, home.</p><p><br></p><p>→ &quot;But Alisson, I&#39;m a customer. I&#39;m paying to be here.&quot; Yeah, I don&#39;t argue with that. It still doesn&#39;t make your taste the DJ&#39;s problem.</p><p><br></p><p>The big takeaway: I&#39;ll be picky as long as it doesn&#39;t affect other people, and if it may affect other people, I&#39;m going to find a way to reduce that effect.</p><p><br></p><p>Chapters:</p><p>00:00 Opening highlights</p><p>1:22 What the pickiness curve is</p><p>3:03 &quot;I don&#39;t like this music&quot; is usually a skill gap</p><p>4:46 Gui&#39;s Xote and Bolero problem</p><p>6:58 How pickiness climbs: shoes, floors, partners</p><p>8:47 Ignorance is bliss, and the gelato snob</p><p>10:35 When your checklist gets too long</p><p>12:18 The bus ride home, and what he asked next</p><p>17:21 Preferences versus pickiness</p><p>21:16 The unpaid dance escort</p><p>22:32 Reading your social battery in one night</p><p>25:43 &quot;I&#39;m a paying customer&quot;, and where the line is</p><p>29:47 Pandemic pods and the people who stopped coming</p><p>34:12 The teacher&#39;s pickiness curve</p><p>37:06 Your dance teacher is a business owner</p><p>40:44 Knowing your preferences without being picky</p><p>45:20 Festivals, and growing the community</p><p><br></p><p>Co-host: Gui Prada</p><p><br></p><p>ZoukNerds: https://www.zouknerds.com/</p><p>Alisson Sandi: https://www.alissonsandi.com</p><p>Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/zouk.nerds/</p><p><br></p><p>Episode: S06 Ep18 | ZoukNerds Podcast</p>