212. Was Staying The Right Decision?

You decided to stay after the affair.

At first, things seemed to be improving. You were communicating better, rebuilding trust, and perhaps even beginning to feel hopeful about the future.

You started to believe you'd made the right decision.

But then things became difficult again.

And suddenly you're asking yourself:

Was staying a mistake?

After betrayal, it's easy to judge our decisions based on how things are going right now. A good month can reassure us that we made the right choice. A difficult week can leave us questioning everything.

But what if the outcome of a decision isn't quite as straightforward as right or wrong?

In this episode of After the Affair, Luke explores four ways we make decisions, why our values can provide a more reliable foundation than fear or other people's opinions, and why the point at which we assess a decision can completely change our perspective.

Drawing on an old Chinese parable about a farmer, his horses and the unpredictable nature of fortune, Luke challenges the idea that we can always determine whether a decision was right simply by looking at what happened afterwards.

In this episode:

The four ways we make decisions: emotion, other people's opinions, chance and values