112: What Does It Really Mean to Be a Protector?

<p>What does it really mean to be a safe person? This week, Luke is joined by Alana Gordon. Together they explore why physical protection is only one part of creating safety—and how emotional regulation, honesty, vulnerability, and the environment we create at home matter just as much. </p><p>You likely already have the instinct to protect. Now you just need to expand what protection means.</p><p><strong>Listen to learn:</strong></p><ul><li><p>What emotional safety really looks like</p></li><li><p>How regulation creates safety</p></li><li><p>How to expand your definition of “protector”</p></li></ul><p><strong>Beyond the Facade is produced in partnership with </strong><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/"><strong>Choose Recovery Services</strong></a><strong> and </strong><a href="https://blueprint-institute.com/"><strong>Blueprint Institute</strong></a><strong>.</strong></p><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/"><strong>Choose Recovery Services</strong></a><strong> </strong>helps individuals and couples heal from betrayal trauma, addiction, and broken relationships so they can find freedom, wholeness, and lasting change.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://blueprint-institute.com/"><strong>Blueprint Institute</strong></a> is a residential program for men working to heal from compulsive behavior. It provides an immersive environment built around structure, accountability, emotional growth, and behavioral change.</p></li></ul><p>We want to hear from you! <a href="https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdTeli8XXgWJfhxuZDM-8v-I18vo_3yQWBcP1r-LxRysrgC9A/viewform?usp=dialog"><u>Fill out this short survey</u></a> to let us know what you like, what you don’t, and what you want more of. </p><p><strong>Register Now!</strong></p><ul><li><p><strong>***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***</strong></p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/awakening-the-man-within/"><strong>Awakening the Man Within</strong></a> - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same. Nov 8-11, 2026 in Spanish Fork, UT.</p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/revive-and-thrive-intensive/"><strong>Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women</strong></a> - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  </p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/rise-renew-restore-retreat-2027/"><strong>Rise, Renew, Restore</strong></a> - Women’s retreat in Bali in April 2027 - Join us in beautiful Bali for an unforgettable blend of deep somatic healing, soulful connection, luxury, adventure, and restorative experiences designed to help you release what’s heavy and reconnect with your joy.</p></li><li><p>💵 <a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/intensive-scholarship/"><u>Scholarships</u></a> and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. </p></li></ul><p><strong>NEW Group at Choose Recovery Services:</strong></p><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/integrity-initiative-group/"><strong>Integrity Initiative</strong></a><strong> - </strong>Learn how to align your behavior with your values and live with integrity, authenticity, and connection. </p></li></ul><p><strong>Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:</strong></p><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/beyond-the-f