Don’t Just Say “Let Me Know” — How to Actually Help a Caregiver

Barry and Bobby start with a question that often gets overlooked: What can family and friends actually do to help the primary caregiver? Drawing from Bobby’s recent experience with the deaths of his mother and two aunts, they identify five practical ways to help—from offering specific assistance and giving caregivers a real break to simply listening without trying to fix everything.

Then the conversation turns toward the seemingly endless parade of scams targeting families and older adults. Barry shares recent examples involving fake FedEx deliveries, Experian and Wells Fargo alerts, bogus job offers, Apple Pay warnings, wrong-number texts, fake invitations, and even an absurd $630,000 inheritance message.

Finally, Barry and Bobby discuss how to decide when technology can actually help an aging loved one. Their conclusion is simple: start with the person and the problem, not the gadget. Technology needs to match someone's existing skills, physical abilities, vision, hearing, memory, and actual needs—and those needs should be reassessed as they change.