High-Conflict Divorce: How to Stop Feeding the Fire

Stuck in a divorce or custody fight that never seems to end? Brook Olsen has spent 25 years helping parents get out of high-conflict divorces, and his main point is simple: every time you engage, you keep the fight going.

Brook is the founder of the High Conflict Diversion Program and host of the High Conflict Co-Parenting Podcast. He went through a high-conflict divorce himself. We talk about:

- What makes a divorce "high conflict," and why custody drives most of it

- Why gray rocking is only step one, and Brook's 3 stages of disengagement

- "Don't just do something, sit there": calming your nervous system before you act

- Borderline, narcissism and attachment, and why your ex probably can't change

- Whether family court is biased against men, and how to change how the judge sees you

- Why the Nice Guy swings to "me, me, me," and how to set boundaries without being aggressive

- Why you should wait before dating again (Brook says 24 months)

- What a high-conflict divorce really costs, and where to start if you're early in it

Brook Olsen

Website: https://highconflict.net