Ep. 197 | The Lies We Tell Ourselves That Keep Us Stuck w/ Matt Ware

What if the biggest thing keeping you stuck is a lie you don’t even realize you’re telling yourself?

“I just need to get motivated.”

“I’m waiting for the right time.”

“I really want it.”

“I’m just being nice.”

Sometimes those things are true. And sometimes they’re the stories we tell ourselves because the truth requires us to do something uncomfortable.

In this episode, leadership coach Matt Ware and I get straight to the heart of it.

We talk about:

Why motivation may not be what you’re actually missingHow being “nice” can become a way of avoiding hard truthsWhy wanting something isn’t the same as being willing to work for itHow past failures AND past successes can keep you stuckWhy honesty and personal responsibility are essential for real growthWhat it means to stop waiting and play the shot that’s in front of you

At the heart of this conversation is something every defender needs: the courage to tell yourself the truth, take responsibility for what is yours, and act on the shot that’s in front of you.

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In this episode of Defenders LIVE, I sit down with leadership coach Matt Ware for a candid conversation about the lies we can tell ourselves without even realizing it, and how those beliefs can quietly keep us stuck. We talk about the tension between waiting and taking action, why motivation isn’t something you can rely on, and the difference between saying you want something and being willing to change your behavior to get it.