The Conversations We Have About People in Our Heads

<p>Have you ever been frustrated with someone without actually saying anything to them?</p><p>I have. And I&#39;ve noticed something happens when criticism stays in my head: I start collecting evidence.</p><p>Once I&#39;ve decided someone is selfish, difficult, lazy, inconsiderate—or whatever verdict I&#39;ve reached—suddenly I notice everything they do that proves I was right.</p><p>In this episode, I talk about the difference between <strong>discernment and judgment</strong>, what unspoken criticism does to our relationships, and why the stories we tell ourselves about other people can become so powerful.</p><p>And for those of us who follow Jesus, there&#39;s another layer to this. Sometimes the most important prayer isn&#39;t, “God, would you change them?”</p><p>It&#39;s <strong>“God, what needs to change in me?”</strong></p><p>Because the conversation you&#39;re having about someone in your head may be changing the way you see them—even if you never say a word.</p><p><br></p>