17. How Am I Supposed to Know How to Truly Parent?

Parenting can feel like you’re expected to know how to do something you’ve never done before — and then do it differently for each child.

In this week’s Know Your Children, Rav Shlomo Katz and the women of Shirat David go deeper into a core yesod: investing in a child’s emotional development isn’t a “nice extra” — it’s essential. We talk about the pressure parents feel, the fear of “getting it wrong,” and why failure is often the only real way we learn (“ein habayshan lamed / אין הביישן למד”).

From there, we move into practical, real-life tools: upgrading the quality of conversations as kids get older, creating daily emotional check-ins, and integrating a child’s emotional world into normal home life (not only reacting when something goes wrong).

Along the way: a powerful “good questions” chinuch story, humility in parenting, and a big reminder that self-care and emotional health in the parent is often a prerequisite to building it in the child.

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Opening and Sponsorship Acknowledgments

01:29 Emotional Development Is a Must

03:52 Physical Growth vs Emotional Needs

05:52 Parents’ Self-Criticism and Growth