Let’s Fcking Date: Serena Kerrigan on What She Got Wrong About Confidence

Serena Kerrigan built a brand around confidence. She became known as the Queen of Confidence, turned her dating life into a live show during COVID, went on 50 virtual blind dates in front of a live audience.

Serena is now the author of Let’s F*cking Date: Become the Prize, Enjoy the Ride, and Never Settle Again, and this book comes from someone who has spent years dating very publicly while also having to take a pretty hard look at her own patterns.

At one point, she asked herself a question that became a turning point: Would I actually want to date me?

She was tired of attracting emotionally unavailable men and having versions of the same disappointing relationship. Eventually, she started looking at what she was bringing into those relationships too, including the ways being fiercely independent and always seeming completely fine could make it hard for someone to really get close to her.

That’s where our conversation starts, but we cover a lot of ground. Serena is funny, opinionated and refreshingly willing to talk about the things she got wrong along the way.

In this episode, we talk about:

What 50 virtual blind dates taught Serena about dating

Why she finally asked herself, “Would I want to date me?”

The difference between real confidence and armor

What she means when she says “become the prize”

Why a quick FaceTime can save you from a terrible first date

Her Foundation List and Flex List, and why knowing the difference matters