#283 From Performance to Presence: Men’s Sexual Confidence and Initiation (with Brett Matthews)

<p>On this episode of #mensexpleasure, sexuality coach Brett Matthews shares how his own early struggles with shame, anxiety, and unworthiness around sex became the “wound” that led him into embodiment work and coaching. We discuss how many clients seek help at crisis points, how porn and disembodied self-pleasure can condition performance habits, and why foundational practices like body awareness, deeper breathing, nervous-system regulation, subconscious retraining/hypnotherapy, and arousal training matter. We also explore performance anxiety’s roots in feeling “not enough,” fear of abandonment, and the power of vulnerability and partner communication.</p><p><br></p><p>Key Points:</p><p>06:50 Porn Conditioning Effects</p><p>10:48 Core Practices For Men</p><p>16:53 Anxiety And &quot;Not Enough&quot;</p><p>26:23 Long Term Relationship Repair</p><p>30:53 Initiation And Manhood</p><p>37:38 Celibacy And Self Identity</p><p>45:01 Initiation Through Pleasure</p>