Not Bad With Money - Just Running an Old Program

<p><em>“You only see what you believe.”</em></p><p>Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.</p><p>In this episode, Steve and Kali ask a question that reframes the whole conversation about personal finance: what if you’re not bad with money – what if you’re just running an outdated program about it? They call it your <em>script</em>: the model of the world you absorbed long before you had any say in it, built from overheard kitchen-table conversations and offhand remarks from people who loved you.</p><p>Steve opens with a story that lands hard: a delegate on a Leeds practitioner course who’d co-written a number one hit – earning several times an average annual salary in one go – and never wrote another. Later that week he mentioned, almost in passing, a core belief that money was a bad thing, inherited from his grandmother. Steve has wondered ever since whether that quiet sentence was what stood between him and a second hit. Kali’s version is closer to home: an eleven-year-old overhearing her mum worry about the electricity bill, and grandparents born in the early 1900s for whom scarcity wasn’t a mindset — it was two world wars, the Depression and rationing. The belief was accurate, once. It just kept travelling down the generations after the conditions changed.</p><p>Then it gets practical: why new coaches price themselves at bargain-basement rates out of imagined scarcity (and the networking meetings full of coaches discussing the lack of demand – a room of people who by definition aren’t busy). Kali shares the reframe that got her onto Master Practitioner when the price made her wince: swap <em>“can I afford it?”</em> for <em>“how can I afford it – and what will it cost me if I don’t?”</em> £500 of coaching work a month later, the course paid for itself. And they close with the habit that keeps recurring on this show: when someone else does well, say <em>good for them</em> – and mean it. Your unconscious mind is always listening, and every put-down teaches it that money is bad.</p><p><strong>In this episode, Steve and Kali discuss:</strong></p><ul><li>The songwriter with a number one hit and an inherited belief that money was bad</li><li>Where money scripts come from – and why your grandparents’ scarcity was real</li><li>Why new coaches underprice themselves, and what to do instead</li><li>The reframe: “how can I afford it – and what will it cost me if I don’t?”</li><li>Paul McKenna’s rule on praising other people’s success (it’s really for you)</li><li>Michael Neill on quoting from scarcity, and <em>Rich Dad, Poor Dad</em> on spending with purpose</li></ul>