The 90-Second Rule: What to Do When You're About to Shut Down

Send us Fan Mail You're mid-conversation with your partner. It started small — the dishwasher, a tone, a missed phone call — and by sentence four, something flips. Your chest goes hot or cold, and every part of you wants to either bolt the room or go silent. If that's you, here's the first thing to know: you're not broken, and you're not bad at conflict. Your body did exactly what it was built to do. In this episode, Katie unpacks what Gottman calls "flooding" — the moment your prefrontal cor...