Men Who Fear Toys Have It Backwards PhD Sexologist Explains

What I Discussed With Dr Jess O’Reilly

- Why sex toys can help couples adapt to changing bodies, arousal, and sexual needs as they get older.

- How introducing a toy can create novelty and playfulness in a long-term relationship.

- Why a sex toy is a tool for pleasure — not a replacement for intimacy or a partner.

- How smaller, simpler toys can make introducing them into a relationship feel less intimidating.

- Why toys can reduce performance pressure when erections, libido, or orgasm become less predictable.

- How self-pleasure can help women understand what they like and communicate it more clearly.

- Why desire doesn’t always come before arousal, particularly in long-term relationships and later life.

- How shame and embarrassment can stop older adults from talking openly about sex.

- Why conversations about sex don’t need to be perfect to be useful.

- How the Yes/No/Maybe checklist can help couples explore sexual interests together.

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