Part 2: Learning to Trust Yourself After Gaslighting

Tara Beall-Gomes and Dr. Rob continue their conversation about next-level gaslighting, including red flag behaviors in therapy, role-playing dialogues that highlight gaslighting language, and the role that a therapist can play in finding closure after years of betrayal. Tara also offers encouragement to a partner that is working to regain their spouses trust, and resources for anyone who is unable to pay for extensive therapy.

TAKEAWAYS:

[1:25] Now he’s gaslighting our therapist?

[3:48] Is gaslighting abusive?

[5:27] Role-play examples of gaslighting, projecting, and controlling.

[10:58] Shame and empathy with rigorous honesty.

[15:43] “I knew all along.” Now what?

[21:37] I can’t believe anything my spouse says.

[25:25] Identifying the core values that drive our reactions.

[32:55] The role of your therapist in finding closure.

[34:50] Red flags in therapy behavior.

[38:52] Next steps when an addict has support and you don’t.