Who The Hell Was That? Outgrowing Old Versions of Yourself, Red Flags & Self Trust

Softly Unfiltered is a podcast exploring Black womanhood, identity, relationships, healing, self-worth, friendship, career, and the unspoken experiences of modern Black women.

Have you ever looked back at an old version of yourself and thought, who the hell was that? This week Blake and Ashlyn are laughing lovingly at the things they used to tolerate, believe, excuse, and over explain while unpacking what changed along the way.

From trusting your intuition to forgiving yourself for accepting less, this conversation is about the standards, boundaries, and self trust that come with finally knowing better.

In this episode:

· Why your body can recognize a red flag before your mind catches up

· Why women are often taught to second guess their intuition

· The role luck, access, and connections can play in success

· How to forgive yourself for accepting less than you deserved

· Why relationships can start to feel like performance

· How dating changes when you stop romanticizing potential

✨Today’s Soft Landing: You are allowed to laugh at who you used to be without hating her. She may have accepted less than she deserved, but she was also learning, surviving, and gathering the wisdom you get to live out today.

What is something you used to tolerate that your current self would never accept?