Have We All Benched Someone? Dating, Backup Boys and the Grass-Is-Greener Trap EP 785

We’ve all heard about ghosting, breadcrumbing and situationships—but what about benching?

This week, Steve V., Jeremy and Kodi take on the dating trend where someone keeps another person interested without ever fully committing or letting them go. But instead of simply calling out bad behavior, the guys turn the question back on themselves:

Haven’t we all done some version of this?

Maybe you knew a guy wasn’t quite right for you but kept seeing him anyway. Maybe you didn’t want to hurt his feelings. Maybe the sex was good. Maybe you liked the attention. Or maybe you were secretly wondering if someone hotter, better—or simply more—was still out there.

The conversation gets personal as the guys explore being on both sides of the bench, the temptation to keep our options open, conflict avoidance, dating-app culture and our constant belief that the grass might be greener with the next guy.