Sexual Reconnection

After betrayal, the sexual relationship rarely picks up where it left off. Some couples experience a surprising surge of intensity. Others can't bear to be touched. Sex and intimacy coach Xanet Pailet joins Tim to talk about what reconnection actually requires, and why most couples start in the wrong place. They discuss hysterical bonding and what's driving it, why emotional affairs are often harder to recover from, and the deep wound of feeling compared or replaced. Xanet also brings her own story: twenty-six years in a sexless marriage, years of believing she was broken, and the work at fifty that changed her life and her career. The third and final episode in our series on sexuality.