A New Definition of People Pleasing

Most of us think of people pleasing as being nice or considerate. But underneath it's often a fear-based survival strategy that leaves someone resentful and burnt out. In this episode, Joe and Alexa unpack what people pleasing really is, where it comes from, and why the way out isn't to stop pleasing people but to change who you're trying to please.

They navigate the somatic cringe that signals the pattern, the surprising overlap between people pleasing and narcissism, and the hacks that actually help.