
← The Burnt Toast Podcast14 may · 41 min
"I Never Liked The Idea of Looking Like a Mom."
<html><h3><strong>You’re listening to Burnt Toast! Today my conversation is with </strong>Jamilah Lemieux<strong>.</strong></h3><p><strong>Jamilah is an award-winning writer, cultural critic, and leading voice in digital feminism,</strong> known for shaping online conversations around race, gender, and relationship. She writes the <a href="https://slate.com/human-interest/care-and-feeding" target="_blank">Care and Feeding Parenting Advice column</a> for <em>Slate</em>, and her work has appeared in outlets like the <em>Los Angeles Times, Vanity Fair,</em> and the <em>Washington Post.</em></p><h3>Jamilah is also the author of the brand new book, <em><a href="https://splitrockbooks.com/book/9780593447543" target="_blank">Black. Single. Mother. Real Life Tales of Longing and Belonging</a></em>.</h3><p>I've been a fan of Jamilah from <em>Slate's</em> Care and Feeding Parenting Podcast, where she was a longtime co-host. Today we get into who gets to call themselves a single mom, the kind of social life co-parenting lets you have, the importance of friends, and we ask: <strong>Is dating (especially for single moms) a diet?</strong></p><h3><strong><a href="https://www.patreon.com/virginiasolesmith/join" target="_blank">Become a paid subscriber</a></strong><strong> to comment, get episode transcripts, and hear Indulgence Gospel — our new bonus segment, running after every episode!</strong></h3><p><a href="https://www.patreon.com/cw/BigUndies/home" target="_blank">Corinne</a> hops on to debrief with me about my conversation with Jamilah. <strong>Indulgence Gospel segments are audio-only so don't miss out! You can listen right here (tap "play" above) or add us to </strong><strong><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-burnt-toast-podcast/id1598931199" target="_blank">Apple</a></strong><strong>, </strong><strong><a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/7rwnBtbLQynBRWRsTfVppw" target="_blank">Spotify</a></strong><strong>, or </strong><strong><a href="https://burnt-toast-podcast.simplecast.com/" target="_blank">wherever you listen. </a></strong></p><p>Another great way to support Burnt Toast is to MAKE SURE you are following us for free in your podcast player! <strong>And if you have two more seconds, please leave us a rating and/or review!</strong> Just scroll down wherever you're listening and tap the stars, five of them please, and leave a little note about why you love Burnt Toast. Both of these things really help new listeners find conversations like these!</p><p><strong>BUTTER</strong></p><p>Jamilah: <a href="https://www.oldwisconsin.com/snacks/yumbo/original" target="_blank">Old Wisconsin Yumbo</a> honey brown sugar turkey sausage stick.</p><p>Virginia: <em><a href="https://splitrockbooks.com/book/9780525659181" target="_blank">Kin</a></em><a href="https://splitrockbooks.com/book/9780525659181" target="_blank"> by Tayari Jones</a></p><p></p><p><strong>EPISODE CREDITS</strong></p><p>Co-hosts: <a href="https://patreon.com/virginiasolesmith" target="_blank">Virginia Sole-Smith </a>and <a href="https://www.patreon.com/cw/BigUndies" target="_blank">Corinne Fay</a>. </p><p>Producer: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/theblondemule/" target="_blank"> Kim Baldwin</a>. </p><p>Logo design: <a href="http://www.deannalowedesign.com/" target="_blank">Deanna Lowe</a>.</p><p>Theme Song: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/ilovefarideh/?hl=en" target="_blank">Farideh</a>.</p><p>Video Editor: <a href="melittlemefoundation.org." target="_blank">Elizabeth Ayiku</a></p><p>Audio Engineer: <a href="http://www.tommyharron.com/" target="_blank">Tommy Harron</a></p><p><strong>Follow us on social! </strong></p><p>Virginia is on Instagram and Threads as<a href="https://www.instagram.com/v_solesmith/" target="_blank"> @v_solesmith</a> and on Bluesky at<a href="https://bsky.app/profile/virginiasolesmith.bsky.social" target="_blank"> @virginiasolesmith</a>. </p><p>Corinne is on Instagram at<a href="https://www.instagram.com/selfiefay/" target="_blank">